Overview

Initially, the reason to consider working with sexuality as part of a spiritual practice is to reduce any constrictions to the free flow of your life force.  Often trauma or societal related constrictions can be directly accessed with sexual healing work.  Generally, this is much more effective than other means, it is especially more effective than talk therapy.

 Welcoming Sexuality

Sexuality can also be used as a tool in transcending the ego.  In fact, if sexuality is ignored it can hinder our spiritual movement. Our spiritual progress can be undermined by our suppressed desires and emotional needs.

When the lower chakras are open and flowing, we create a stable base and have access to a grounded energy that can support connecting with deep and subtle states.  By engaging sexual energies consciously, as fully as we are able, we weaken the ego’s control on us.  It can release us from our chattering mind by intensifying and circulating the erotic energies that flow around, within and through us. 

 Staying Present, Quiet Mind

Sexuality helps to focus on the present moment, and to become more aware and mindful.  It awakens and mobilizes the lifeforce within.  It can be a portal into a meditative and prayerful state.  As our attention drops more into the present, we are able to widen our awareness.  With practice, the ecstasy that is generated can be used to expand beyond the individual, feeling into the oneness of all.

How we access sexual energies – whether by the gaze of our eyes, the caress of our voice, or the gentleness of tender touching, is irrelevant. What matters is the spiritual momentum of these activities.  Working with sexual energy – whether alone, with a stranger, with a partner we believe we know well, or with the trees, the skies, the mountains and the oceans – is always consensual, mutual, wholly present, ethical, and expressive of the oneness of all.